One of the greatest questions to myself is how will be able to avoid being part of the 50% divorce rate in this country later on. My grandparents were married for 64 years before my grandmother passed away last August. I consider their life as a total success, and im glad that i was a product of that success. I told myself whats the foundation of that success? how would i be able to replicate such success and implement it in modern times.
Today was Valentines Day. I was an altar server at church, and during the Homily, the priest asked those couples how long were they married. 50, 60, 40 years married and still together like they were still love at first sight. How come our generation is so different than them. Werent we supposed to be more open-minded and learned from past mistakes. Our current divorce rate is 50% and above and divorce is openly accepted in this society. As a product of my grandparents, I aways envied them. My grandfather was a model to me. Respect women because they are your treasure. Youre only entitled to one and treat her as the best as you can be. That is the measure of a real man. The measure of a real man here has a somewhat more superficial twist to it. You have to be tall, lots of money and power. Yet, how come celebrities always break up and remarry and break up over and over. I cant seen to understand this. Have we become a materialistic society to the point that were only concerned about getting richer and forgot that women actually have this thing called "feelings".
When i was young, i have witnessed nasty divorces and have observed them and i told myself, "I will not do this to my future wife". A woman has feelings, and keep in mind that since they were young i'm pretty sure that they wanted to have their own prince charming, but how would that prince charming consist of? a man of power and charm able to attract other women. Or would the ideal prince charming would be somewhat of a noble average looking man who will lay down his life for his true love. I was confronted with that whether which path i should take. But, i will take the path that my grandfather has taken many years ago and have resulted in a total success. Maybe 70 years later on, my grandson will find myself in the same situation that i am right now. One thing i know, is that i will teach and model to my grandson and son what my grandfather and father have taught me.
Success for me, is a family first. A women is a gift from God that i will fully treasure and respect beyond all means. Am i chivalrous? that'll depend on women. But i will be nice because i believe that women should be treated equally and respectfully, not like guys who are nice who get under their pants. Be nice and ask nothing in return. That is how i was taught. Im an average looking guy, but i have a big heart to offer. I believe a guy who focuses on treating a girl the right way by respecting her and treasuring her not just for self enjoyment but for an international cause. Also, a woman who appreciates a man like him and will work together as a team, they would last forever. Back then, divorce was made fun of, so i guess they were scared to do so. Now, its more openly accepted, but i think even though it maybe openly accepted, divorce could be avoided by carefully planning and thinking what a basis of a true relationship is. The elderly are there as a model for us. Theyve walked that path before and we should do the same. Even with this youth oriented country, we should seek from the past to answer future problems.
To end this post, i will put my 2 favorite quotes that i made myself. "Every woman is special and beautiful, but they dont realize it". This is not external in nature but also within. All women should be treated highly despite what background they have. This would guarantee you respect. Dont ask anything in return in what you do and teach other guys to do the same. 2nd, "the real measure of a man is how he owes up to his commitments and treats women in high regard". That for me is one of the final goals in a man's life. To do good and cherishing one gift from God. To treat her in high regard and for once in a lifetime make her feel the best as she can be. i will look for that woman and gladly die once i have served her well. God will be happy for me. I will be a model for other men and hopefully they do the same to others. This is only 1 shot in a lifetime.
I speak for the men and i think my grandfather is a perfect example of how a man should be. A woman is appreciate in return. They both work as a team and strive towards a goal and until death do us part. This is one of the goals in my lifetime. Get married and treat a lady in high regard and be with her until i die. I know im too young but starting young is great, as I have more time to discuss my mission with other people. Find a lady who's appreciate of a man's efforts not that what he has externally but what kind of heart does he offer and for long term emotionally and how both would contribute for a long lasting relationship. Put all tangible thing aside. That my friends i think is a key ingredient in forming the basis of a long lasting relationship.
